Comments on: Married to an Alcoholic :: Part 2 http://www.wendypiersall.com/married-to-an-alcoholic-part-2/ Web 2.0 Marketing, Social Media Strategy & Serial Entrepreneur Fri, 13 Jan 2012 17:16:36 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 By: Tracy Wilson http://www.wendypiersall.com/married-to-an-alcoholic-part-2/comment-page-1/#comment-67209 Tracy Wilson Tue, 05 Jul 2011 16:35:49 +0000 http://wendypiersall.com/2006/11/15/married-to-an-alcoholic-part-2/#comment-67209 My mind at the moment is is "Awe". I don't know if I can speak right now, my life married to an alcoholic husband for 20 yrs, and 3 kids, I finally couldn't take the emotional roller coaster anymore, and couldn't put my kids through it either. I left and was pretty much homeless for 6 months with 1 of my kids, the others were with friends, etc. Even though I love my husband, he hasn't helped with support, he's still drinking, and I finally got a place of my own and now have 2 kids with me, just waiting on the 3rd. (I have teenage children). At times I feel so helpless, no money, no gas in the car, no food, how can I keep doing this when he was the main bread winner and I on SS disability. Not easy but better then the alternative. I hope he gets sober someday and we can have what we used to without the alcohol. But for now I'll keep on praying, a lot, and keep calling on any assistance I can. Need to keep it together for my kids, we have a lot of healing to do. They still see their dad and he has come around to help with outside things at my new place, this I'm very unsure about, but will see how time plays out. I guess I had a little on my mind, even though I've left a lot of it out in between. For now, I need to contact SRS and let them know I found a place on my own. Now I just need to get household stuff again, after 20 years, I'm a bit at a loss right now, and very overwhelmed. Good bye for now, and will love to hear from your comments/life again. Tracy My mind at the moment is is “Awe”. I don’t know if I can speak right now, my life married to an alcoholic husband for 20 yrs, and 3 kids, I finally couldn’t take the emotional roller coaster anymore, and couldn’t put my kids through it either. I left and was pretty much homeless for 6 months with 1 of my kids, the others were with friends, etc. Even though I love my husband, he hasn’t helped with support, he’s still drinking, and I finally got a place of my own and now have 2 kids with me, just waiting on the 3rd. (I have teenage children). At times I feel so helpless, no money, no gas in the car, no food, how can I keep doing this when he was the main bread winner and I on SS disability. Not easy but better then the alternative. I hope he gets sober someday and we can have what we used to without the alcohol. But for now I’ll keep on praying, a lot, and keep calling on any assistance I can. Need to keep it together for my kids, we have a lot of healing to do. They still see their dad and he has come around to help with outside things at my new place, this I’m very unsure about, but will see how time plays out. I guess I had a little on my mind, even though I’ve left a lot of it out in between. For now, I need to contact SRS and let them know I found a place on my own. Now I just need to get household stuff again, after 20 years, I’m a bit at a loss right now, and very overwhelmed. Good bye for now, and will love to hear from your comments/life again. Tracy

]]> By: Respecting The Blog | Bird On A Wire http://www.wendypiersall.com/married-to-an-alcoholic-part-2/comment-page-1/#comment-43333 Respecting The Blog | Bird On A Wire Mon, 06 Oct 2008 15:33:58 +0000 http://wendypiersall.com/2006/11/15/married-to-an-alcoholic-part-2/#comment-43333 [...] then there are those other times when I read something, or see a picture, or share a story, or watch a video and the power of this medium hits me like a [...] [...] then there are those other times when I read something, or see a picture, or share a story, or watch a video and the power of this medium hits me like a [...]

]]> By: Carl Bromley http://www.wendypiersall.com/married-to-an-alcoholic-part-2/comment-page-1/#comment-96 Carl Bromley Wed, 10 Jan 2007 18:26:38 +0000 http://wendypiersall.com/2006/11/15/married-to-an-alcoholic-part-2/#comment-96 Hi Wendy, I just finished reading your article on depression and much of it relates to me, even though I'm not an eMom. Thank you for writing it. Years ago when I was in couples counseling (I initiated it), one of the actions proposed by our counselor was to invite your spouse to answer the question "What one thing can I do for YOU this coming week to make our marriage better for us?" Each of us was supposed to honor the other by doing what we could. We discussed what we wanted and why... it should have been win-win. Over a period of two weeks I was doing what she asked to make things better and she wasn't reciprocating. Eventually I had to get out but that was after three years of trying. Good luck to you and all your eMoms and thanks for the forum. Carl Hi Wendy, I just finished reading your article on depression and much of it relates to me, even though I’m not an eMom. Thank you for writing it.

Years ago when I was in couples counseling (I initiated it), one of the actions proposed by our counselor was to invite your spouse to answer the question “What one thing can I do for YOU this coming week to make our marriage better for us?”

Each of us was supposed to honor the other by doing what we could. We discussed what we wanted and why… it should have been win-win.

Over a period of two weeks I was doing what she asked to make things better and she wasn’t reciprocating. Eventually I had to get out but that was after three years of trying.

Good luck to you and all your eMoms and thanks for the forum.

Carl

]]> By: WendyPiersall.com » Blog Archive » Sobriety was Only the Start of our Marriage Problems http://www.wendypiersall.com/married-to-an-alcoholic-part-2/comment-page-1/#comment-28 WendyPiersall.com » Blog Archive » Sobriety was Only the Start of our Marriage Problems Tue, 05 Dec 2006 17:32:19 +0000 http://wendypiersall.com/2006/11/15/married-to-an-alcoholic-part-2/#comment-28 [...] The difficult question I had to ask myself was, “Who do I need to become in order to be with this ideal partner in this ideal relationship?” It was in these answers that I would find what I was looking for. [...] [...] The difficult question I had to ask myself was, “Who do I need to become in order to be with this ideal partner in this ideal relationship?” It was in these answers that I would find what I was looking for. [...]

]]> By: WendyPiersall.com » Blog Archive » Married to an Alcoholic :: Part 1 http://www.wendypiersall.com/married-to-an-alcoholic-part-2/comment-page-1/#comment-4 WendyPiersall.com » Blog Archive » Married to an Alcoholic :: Part 1 Wed, 15 Nov 2006 20:18:19 +0000 http://wendypiersall.com/2006/11/15/married-to-an-alcoholic-part-2/#comment-4 [...] Read Part 2 [...] [...] Read Part 2 [...]

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